So i got ot have this awesome fathers day brunch with my 11 year old son, his eyes were as big as saucers as were mine when we soaked in all the possibilities. we both loaded up way too much on our plates but ultimately did ok.
One mindset to overcome is but i've spent so much money i must eat all that i possibly can! fooey. You'll be even hungrier for dinner if you stuff yourself, you really really aren't saving a dime by woofing til it hurts. so, diet, buffet, nightmare! not really. I wasn't strict but I also wasn't that lax. I loaded up on eggs (didn't eat them, ick) eggs benedict, planned on not eating the english muffin, ended up eating none of it, wasn't tasty (see, skip it if it isnt good!)
ate a pound of bacon. mmmmm.
honey walnut shrimp mmmm (see now there's some sugar but honey - hopefully) and that's no candy bar.
cheese blintzes a plenty, went back for seconds, sure there's some sugar in there but its eggs wrapped around cream cheese, now compare that to say a waffle or french toast? previously i'd kill for those but now, not really worth it especially since i can have something soooo good and not be doing all that bad. really the biggest cheat was 5 strawberries with the non-cheat of redi-whip (check that action out on the low carb thing, its much joy, just dont over do it)
all told I have no idea how many carbs i had, but i wasn't stuffed and what I ate didn't expand later (any bread or rice or potato type thing will stretching out your stomach making you more hungry later)
most importantly though, i didn't go 'off' any 'diet' even if ultimately i totally binged my mindset was not like that at all, I was making choices based on my new lifestyle making sure not to feel like i was gorging OR depriving myself on a special day.
next day i'm back to sausage patty's and protein shake for breakfast chicken and veggies for lunch, back when i did this before the mindset would be eh, i already 'screwed up' anyway, whats one more 'cheat' day? bad bad bad mindset.
The key mentality to have is not how much did i lose or how perfect have i been but how much have i really honestly stuck to my own plan? for me, I haven't deviated an inch in 6.5 months because I gave myself a plan that was not super hard to stick to for at least a couple years. you have to think, honestly, can someone who eats like this and moves like this day in and day out for 24 months possibly still weigh x or possibly still have difficulty tying shoes or walking downtown... no way, so who cares if you stall one way or another if you stick to the plan you will get there inevitably.
That being said, the universe jumped out at me.
This puppy jumped out on the highway the day before
covered in dirt and birdshit it was not too hard to talk the guy into taking $60 for it, these go for $1300-$2k online so this was an unbelievably good deal.
like many things, sure you could just use a brick or do pushups or... but again this makes me feel like i'm not depriving myself while still not just throwing a fortune at something i might not stick to, load on the guilt, woof down another sheet of brownies action, nope, not a lot spent and the whole family can use this.
i'd been thinking about scoring one of these for a few months, need to tone those muscles to get the most enjoyment out of skiing when i get to the lightness i need for that as well but now that I have stalled a bit on weight loss i've got some pretty simple stark choices, knuckle down on the intake (booo!) or bump up the jam on the burn side. simplest way might be to just keep carrying around all that extra weight in a backpack but my body was not loving that before, not sure i want to experience that any longer than I have to, so get my butt out of bed 45min earlier and get on this puppy is the plan.
now, at this point you're saying puh, if i had that kind of motivation i'd already be there. if you haven't started yet on your journey this isn't for you...yet. I'll share later the stuff i did to drop that 50 but thats something i've done before and maybe you have too, maybe several times thats not the problem that needs solving its the what now and thats why i'm getting this down, this is the new territory, the psychology I need to crack to get where i want to be. its a process, its a shift in lifestyle, not from sloth to jock but from lower activity to living more. its gradual, little shifts here and there. one of the biggest hurdles we face is that what would do a great job at maintaining the level of fitness and energy you want cannot be done when you are starting out, every exercise you can think of is painful so i did absolutely none up to now, just the diet shift, modified atkins (no ketosis) now that i can move more easily and I have a lot more energy, looking at this thing doesn't make me groan.
when i get to my goal i might find that I'm able to do so much mountain biking, skiing, golfing that I can be far less good about what i'm eating but likely money and time will stop me from doing any of those nearly enough so having built of a routine that can keep me there will allow me to really enjoy those on the rare occasion that I can get out there and do it.
happy living!
So glad that you and the little man got to have a good time together on Father's Day - you're a great Daddy. The acquisition of the Bowflex is just awesome - and perfect timing. Tonight is the first night you went to bed early so that you could get up and exercise before going to work tomorrow, and again, this makes me so proud of you. You have done countless diets with me and without me before, but this time is really different. You are making your own path, and it's really working! And you seem less stressed, which is soooo amazingly incredibly wonderful.
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ReplyDeletethat was for the other post but applies here too, for this one though a dose of fail, landed myself in deep rem when the alarm went of early wasn't ready for it, no bow pumping yet but this whole game is about not sweating that stuff, it might take me a bit to get into a routine but what matters is that i get there and stay there for a long time.
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